Funeral arrangements.....

[baymule]

Good for you Bee. Death is part of living, but nobody likes to deal with it. You and your Mom did the sensible thing. I've done the pick out the casket-funeral planning thing-multiple times. I went with my cousin when her mother died.... that funeral director will never forget me! I cracked bad taste funeral jokes, kept my cousin laughing instead of crying and had a great time.

I love the casket/blanket chest! It is too pretty not to keep it for storage!

 

[Nyboy]

My father was the only one in family with blue eyes, he was very vain about them. I grew up hearing all the time how when he died he was donating his corneas for the blind. Some lucky person was going to get his blue eyes. So being a organ donor just seemed nauteral to me. I asked him about 2 years ago about cornea donation he claims he never said anything about it . I guess as time gets closer, feelings about death change. My nephew tells me with my heavy smoking and drinking, person would be better off with their own failing organs LOL

 

[Ridgerunner]

Well, maybe with some organs, but just donate them for science. Let some medical student carve you up to learn about a totally abused body. They can take what they want and use them as they will.

Just tell that nephew how useful you are even after death. If you want to be snarky, ask him how useful he is being today while alive.

 

[Nyboy]

 

[ninnymary]

Nyboy, your nephew's comment cracked me up! Sorry

Mary​

 

[journey11]

Interesting thread. I like that pine coffin. I think I would prefer something like that myself. I never understood the point of putting a $5000 shiny coffin in the ground.

I'm sure my Dad and I will have to go do this at some point. He trusts my judgement in whatever comes up and is not overly concerned with it. He'd probably rather not talk about that right now and would be fine with whatever I decide, but I'd like to know what he wants done, although it will be difficult to get through it in that moment. Must be stoic about it, I guess. And at peace with the fact we all go eventually.

He's doing so well today! Even went out to the farm to secure some of the equipment out there and enjoy the beautiful day God has given us. Too much living to do to worry about dying right now.

I agree with all that you've said in your post, Beekissed. Something about the viewing that has always bothered me is all the people standing around laughing, talking, gossiping....just seems so irreverent, but that's what happens at most of them. What is said and done in the here and now while you still have your loved ones with you; that is all that matters. There are no reparations or assuaging feelings of guilt after it's all said and done, no matter how much ceremony and shine you try to put on it.

My brother is coming to terms with that now. He has caused my Dad so much grief over the years. My brother is a bit out of his mind from all the drugs he has taken and talking to him wears me out entirely, but at least he is trying to step up and be there for my Dad right now. I am just so thankful that God gave us this time to prepare. The way things were going with the brain tumor, my Dad was a hair's breadth from going out into eternity suddenly and unexpectedly (he was still driving 40 miles to work!! ) The surgery has bought us time and he is healthier and more himself now than he has been in half a year.

 

[Smart Red]

I am pleased that things seem to be going well. This time together will be more treasured and precious for having gone through this period.

 

[Carol Dee]

I am pleased that things seem to be going well. This time together will be more treasured and precious for having gone through this period.

Very true.

 

[Chickie'sMomaInNH]

 

[baymule]

@journey11 my kids asked me what was a funeral when they were small. Your comment about people talking and laughing being so irreverent reminded me of what I told them.

A funeral is a big going away party. Someone has died, their body is there, but their spirit is gone to be with God and Jesus. Everybody gathers to tell them goodbye. Some people visit with each other, they laugh and talk because they haven't seen each other in a long time, and that's ok. Some people are sad and they might cry, and that's ok too. A funeral is a party for the person that has died, it is a opportunity for all their friends and family to gather together in their honor.