The swollen leg may not be a blood clot. When DH was put on the steroid his right leg swelled huge. He had to have an ultrasound on that leg twice. It stayed swollen a long time. Never did have a clot. It is his bad leg with bad circulation. He broke the femur bone when 18. He was taken off the steroid later and then he had to go back on the steroid twice over the months and his leg never swelled like that again. DH did a lot of what your dad is doing. Actually, a lot of people with cancer seem to be alike. No rest, always stressed or stressing others. My mother had to go to a nursing home almost 2 years before she died because we could not give her the care she needed. It was hard, but looking back it was the best and best for my children. I know a person over the internet that has lung cancer and refuses chemo. She is on oxygen and suffering. Her family is suffering. She basically was saying goodbye months ago, but she is still alive and her family watching all this. Just because a doctor says you are dying does not mean today or even soon. Soon to them could be a year. DH with radiation, chemo, surgery, and now immunotherapy is walking, talking, eating, driving, active. This lady is not walking, using oxygen, not being active, and not sure if she is eating. I type medical reports and the doctors told a man he was going to die. He decided he wanted nothing done and was not going home to die and put his wife through it, so wanted to stay in the hospital, take off his oxygen and have no medical treatment. They told him, oh you are not dying THAT SOON, but still he took off the oxygen, no blood pressure medicine, no diabetes medicine, so now he can live not as well as he was before and think he is dying daily, but really just suffer more. Also, years ago, I moved an elderly aunt to my house and my mother was alive and we took care of her until she died. We did her no favor. She was mad. She wanted to go to her house. If we had gone to another state and moved in her house, she would have been happy, but she died a slow death being sad, mad, and stressed out bad. I do not know if any of this will help you Journey. I know exactly how you feel about your dad. Why people who are sick, lash out at their family, makes no sense, but steroids, brain tumors, strange stuff happens. Your brother and yourself have to take care of yourselves first. I know, easier said than done.
