My BJ, My Husband has Died

[baymule]

I went through my phone today, sending pictures to the friends that are going to put together a memorial for BJ. I found these and smiled. It was 2016. We stopped at
Buc-ees which must be the worlds biggest convenience store. We got to clowning around, y'all enjoy.

us and my daughter

 

[AMKuska]

Oh my, I love that last photo! You guys had so much fun together.

 

[Gardening with Rabbits]

I am just so sorry. I have no words. I know what you are going through. Yours is different. I had a year and a half knowing I was going to lose DH. I was not sick. I cannot imagine this happening to you so fast and being so sick yourself. I am glad you have family and they mean everything. It is hard, really hard. I am not sure how many women and men here have lost their spouse, best friend. Everything changes. I am glad you are feeling better and getting stronger. I think the grief after DH died took my strength away. Grieving about did me in. It has been 4 years since I lost DH. I am just saying this so you know to guard your health and strength. So many women I have talked to had health issues after the first year. Adding we were married 25 years too.

 

[majorcatfish]

@baymule dana, just heard of bj passing im truly sadden to hear this, will be praying for the whole family.

while here you always posted wonderful posts of bj and you, felt like part of your endeavors thank you very much for sharing, sounds like you have have some wonderful neighbors that have been helping you though all this you are truly blissed.

from what you said about moving that's great you will be closer to family, family is very important... cherish them.

will pop in and check on you now and then... once you have made your move you never know i might have to take another road trip to see one of my favorites and bring some more bricks.
till then consider hugged,,a really big one

lloyd

 

[Rhodie Ranch]

Oh Major...you gave me goosebumps.

 

[baymule]

@Gardening with Rabbits I remember your husbands illness and passing. It was heart breaking. There is no easy way to deal with it and we all have our private grief to go through. And you are right, everything changes. I have a lot of changes coming my way, not sure how I'll handle it all, but I'll get through it. It's gonna take awhile.

@majorcatfish thank you. Sure miss you and wish you would come back. We go through a lot on this forum, good times and bad. We draw strength from each other, we laugh together and sometimes we cry together. You are needed here.

Oh my, I love that last photo! You guys had so much fun together.

Yes we did.

 

[Cosmo spring garden]

Bay,

I am so sorry to hear that your husband passed away. I will lift you up in my prayers.
I know he never posted on this site but I felt like I knew him from your posts.
I am so sorry 😞

 

[Gardening with Rabbits]

@Gardening with Rabbits I remember your husbands illness and passing. It was heart breaking. There is no easy way to deal with it and we all have our private grief to go through. And you are right, everything changes. I have a lot of changes coming my way, not sure how I'll handle it all, but I'll get through it. It's gonna take awhile.

@majorcatfish thank you. Sure miss you and wish you would come back. We go through a lot on this forum, good times and bad. We draw strength from each other, we laugh together and sometimes we cry together. You are needed here.


Yes we did.

I was just thinking of what it was like with my children and how I had to be strong for them, and in a weird way it helped me. DS was 18 when his dad died and DD 24 and just married. I had to be strong for them. They could not stand seeing me sad and when I talked about him too much I could see DS crumbling. DD has been heartbroken over her children not knowing her dad. She sees her girls with her husband's dad and calling him grandpa and it has been hard on her. I am thankful the kids have him. You are very strong and you will get through it. I have been thinking of you all day.

 

[baymule]

My granddaughters now only have one grandparent-me. Well, if you count my ex husband, the psycho sperm donor to my children, I guess they have another grandparent. My daughter never goes to his house and sure doesn't let her kids go there. They see each other maybe twice a year, usually meet at a restaurant. THAT'S NOT A GRANDPARENT. A pile of horse manure is more useful than him.

Well, I feel better now, I was crying, now I'm laughing at the thought of my POS ex and a pile of horse manure.

 

[Marie2020]

My granddaughters now only have one grandparent-me. Well, if you count my ex husband, the psycho sperm donor to my children, I guess they have another grandparent. My daughter never goes to his house and sure doesn't let her kids go there. They see each other maybe twice a year, usually meet at a restaurant. THAT'S NOT A GRANDPARENT. A pile of horse manure is more useful than him.

Well, I feel better now, I was crying, now I'm laughing at the thought of my POS ex and a pile of horse manure.

Hey, horse crap is useful my dear. It makes great compost so are you saying this man is useful, surely not. I'm sure you can find a much better word for that thing or person

It's good too get this anger out of your system. I find it helps us to heal.

Personally, if I was a child I would much rather have one good grandparent or parent than a family of good for nothing's that led me up the wrong path.

I landed up with one adopted mother until I was in my mid too late twenties. There was never a grand parent in sight. That was good enough for me.

At least your children and grandchildren have each other and a massive bonus they have you plus they have learned what slug slime too avoid in their world and how too bear or tolerate such people to get by in life .

Just my take on it my lovely you don't have to agree with me