My Dad

[ninnymary]

My goodness! Hope the rest of your day get's better.

Mary

 

[journey11]

@digitS' , I sure try to put myself in his shoes, thinking how much he has had to give up all of the sudden. 60 is quite young really! My dad always kept very busy and worked really hard all his life. It's hard to have all of that come to a screeching halt. Other than the Parkinson's, my dad is healthy as a horse--slender, perfect blood pressure, no cholesterol or diabetes, no arthritis, nothing. Now in light of this beastly tumor, the Parkinson's seems like such a small thing.

 

[Carol Dee]

MY Goodness, that was not a good way to star his treatments! Prayers that things begin to go smoother.

 

[Rhodie Ranch]

That fire non-drill would have melted me down. I'm usually very stoic until after something is completed, but that woulda done me in.

Hugs to you, for strength.

 

[baymule]

Journey, I can relate on the siblings not helping. My Dad died of bone cancer, was bedridden for a year, and my brother and sister visited him maybe 4 or 5 times. They both lived 45 minutes away and neither worked. I lived an hour away and was there 3 or 4 times a week. When my Mom had a stroke, she wound up living with us for several years and once again, it was all on me. But I knew it would be from the time I was a teenager, I could see the writing on the wall. While it was heartbreaking and hard, I was glad to be able to care for both of them.

Now about you, take advantage of your church family. Let the church announce that you need help on taking your Dad for treatments. At least once or twice a week, ask church members to help. I am sure you will get assistance, be sure to let them know how deeply appreciated it is. It is wonderful that they want to help with meals. You never know how much you need your church family until you need them.

 

[ninnymary]

Ditto about the church family. So many times people offer to help and no one takes them up on it. Why is it so hard to accept help when we need it?

Mary

 

[journey11]

@baymule , it's hard being the only responsible sibling. Like you said, I probably could have foreseen it here too.

I'm trying to do better with accepting help as it is offered. I guess you'd find out if they really meant it or were just being nice. I think there might be some who would.

My mom has been going over twice a day to check on him and give him his blood thinner shots. That has been a tremendous help to me and I'm so proud of my divorcedad's parents for getting along so well. My mom even said she'd help with the mowing. We're the roles reversed, my dad would do the same for her too, I'm sure.

Ava had soccer practice this evening and one of my friends from church, her son is on the same team. Her dad has leukemia and turns out he was there at the same time. They said the fire alarm went off because some idiot was smoking in the bathroom. I don't think I'll be telling Dad that's why he was so inconvenienced today.

 

[Smart Red]

One step at a time. You know you are doing the right thing. That's the best you can do. We are here with support, love, and prayers.

 

[Devonviolet]

I'm so sorry you have to go through this Journey. But, it sounds like God is giving you strength, wisdom & help! I wish we were close enough that I could give you a hand. I'm praying that He will bring you even more help.

@baymule gave you some good advice, about asking your church family for help.
I'm one of those who is quick to offer, but hesitates to accept help. I'm also praying that God will help you acept help from your church family.

 

[baymule]

We all want to be the one who gives blessings, but don't want to accept blessings. Here's a good way to look at it. By not accepting the blessings from someone else, you are denying them being able to give their blessings on you. How much more blessings could we all give, if others would only graciously accept them!