Ducks ALIVE in 2025!

[flowerbug]

wow, so sorry to hear, but being at peace with life and what happens next is to me wisdom even if it is a tough road. wailing at the fates doesn't seem to change them much and i can't stand the noise. *hugs to you, DH, and family*

 

[ducks4you]

I am comforted by everybody's sentiments. THANK YOU!!
We have had members here who suffer loss drop out for a season. I will probably Not do this.
I intend to check in and "Like" or respond to posts, just so you know that I am still here.
Palliative care told me that without the 6 weeks severe chemo and radiation treatments that he has refused, there is no guarantee of survival beyond 6 months and some patients have only survived 3 weeks after brain cancer discovery.
All that I know is that DH has been experiencing balancing issues for the past 6 weeks-2 months and they are attributable to the high-grade glioma cancer which has been growing deeply. We know of at least One case where a much younger/healthier man had this tumor, went under the knife for a biopsy, and didn't survive the surgery for That.
Also, DH's sister's cancer experience when He was in his early 20's has scarred him against even trying. He knows that the chemo would be 6 straight weeks of nausea and vomiting and misery and the payoff isn't guaranteed.
Our family is Grateful that the Lord let him fall last week.
He would be getting sicker and we would not have known Why.
I do not pretend to be a superior caretaker or claim to be at peace yet.
I Am asking "WHY this, why Now?"
I have been saying that getting two puppies NOW was very bad timing.
I do know that if we hadn't gotten the puppies, who are very sweet but Very difficult to train--these are working GSD's--I would probably curl up a ball, after he has passed on, and forget to take care of my other animals.
Probably forget to eat, too, but that is a blessing and solves the single health problem that the last 2 years show I have.
DH said yesterday, "Remember what Jesus said."
I said, Jesus said a Lot of things--are you cherry picking?!?
DH replied that Jesus told his disciples not to mourn for him bc he was going to die, but to Enjoy their time with him while he was still with them.
Can't find the chapter/verse, but I have read this--get back to you on it.

 

[Rhodie Ranch]

I have tears. A long hug and gentle pat pat pats on your back - from me to you.

 

[Finnie]

DH took a fall Monday night, hit his head, went to PT and therapist told him that he should get a CTScan bc he is on a blood thinner. 2 MRI's later and he has a brain tumor that is fatal. His Neurosurgeon recommends a biopsy and 6 weeks of chemo and radiation treatment. DH saw his sister go through this when she was 16, and she survived Hodgins disease, but the treatment was horrible.
I thought his issue was being too sedentary, but it looks like the tumor has been causing these problems for the past 6 weeks.
He is not unhappy. Family is all getting together for a deep clean and purge weekend of the 15th.
Not dead yet, and I expect he'll be around for at least the next 6 months.
Our good friend is an ICU nurse, same hospital and is sending me links to palliative care, so I will need to make and appointment and talk to them about home care.
NOT going to a nursing home. That would kill him in a month.

Oh dear. This is NOT what I thought you were going to say. I’m so sorry.

 

[Rhodie Ranch]

Ducks: you and your DD have my husband on your nightly prayer group. Please take him off, and give all of that space and love to your husband.

 

[ducks4you]

WOW! Nightly...
Middle DD and I try to prayer M-F, over the phone. She is coming this weekend to help clean up and spend quality time with her dad. I have a new FB cover photo. Here is a Tropicana rose that youngest DD picked while dog walking in the yard. Also, a cup from Wall Drug, where we stopped on most of our vacation trips to CO or SD.
Also, is a pill case. I bought him 3, he gave one to his sister and kept the other two and they have been in daily rotation since then. Mt. Evans road used to have a gift shop at Echo Lake, and the pill case has the same geological marker that is used everywhere in the CO Rockies, and is unique. Not sure you can even find this item anymore.
It Says:
Mt Evans Scenic Highway
North Americas Highest Highway
Elevation Above Sea Level, 14,270 Ft

 

[Marie2020]

I am comforted by everybody's sentiments. THANK YOU!!
We have had members here who suffer loss drop out for a season. I will probably Not do this.
I intend to check in and "Like" or respond to posts, just so you know that I am still here.
Palliative care told me that without the 6 weeks severe chemo and radiation treatments that he has refused, there is no guarantee of survival beyond 6 months and some patients have only survived 3 weeks after brain cancer discovery.
All that I know is that DH has been experiencing balancing issues for the past 6 weeks-2 months and they are attributable to the high-grade glioma cancer which has been growing deeply. We know of at least One case where a much younger/healthier man had this tumor, went under the knife for a biopsy, and didn't survive the surgery for That.
Also, DH's sister's cancer experience when He was in his early 20's has scarred him against even trying. He knows that the chemo would be 6 straight weeks of nausea and vomiting and misery and the payoff isn't guaranteed.
Our family is Grateful that the Lord let him fall last week.
He would be getting sicker and we would not have known Why.
I do not pretend to be a superior caretaker or claim to be at peace yet.
I Am asking "WHY this, why Now?"
I have been saying that getting two puppies NOW was very bad timing.
I do know that if we hadn't gotten the puppies, who are very sweet but Very difficult to train--these are working GSD's--I would probably curl up a ball, after he has passed on, and forget to take care of my other animals.
Probably forget to eat, too, but that is a blessing and solves the single health problem that the last 2 years show I have.
DH said yesterday, "Remember what Jesus said."
I said, Jesus said a Lot of things--are you cherry picking?!?
DH replied that Jesus told his disciples not to mourn for him bc he was going to die, but to Enjoy their time with him while he was still with them.

That's so very brave and a very wise way to go forward. Make every day count.
Your husband is so very blessed to have you and your loving family. I am sure he knows this.
Sending you a million hugs my dear lady.
I'll be checking in on you, your family and those little puppies.

Can't find the chapter/verse, but I have read this--get back to you on it.

 

[ducks4you]

DH is to go on Hospice in the next few days. He doesn't look bad, is starting to get Good drugs, like liquid Morphine.
I have convinced him to exit the house on his butt and shimmy down lower to use the walker. Handyman has an east side railing work order, but I left another message to find out When.
Full tub out/shower replacement guy is coming to start the ball rolling Saturday morning, could be completed in the next 20 days. Eldest DD looked up reviews, said that were all over the place, BUT, for a national company, the bad reviews were in the SW. She asked if the salesman gave me good vibes. I felt badly--for Many reasons that we didn't start this sooner--but when I called the salesman, he said he now did plumbing for the company and put me in contact with the current salesman, J, who said that they had both been friends since HS. I'm feeling ok with this. As I understand it, the complete job is 1-2 days, and we can live with that.
I am sure it will be lovely and very useful.
Only thing to do is to keep him doing leg and arm exercises to be strong enough, starting today. The whirlwind of last week suspended his at home PT with me.
Good news--Youngest DD had Veteran's Day off. We ran errands, including exchanging the 4 toners for her color laser (printer) for the right ones, picking up DH's prescription and my prescription, and picking up the online order for horse supplies. I now have enough sweet feed and bedding to see me through March.
There really isn't time for me to make a trip into town for this right now.
Since all three DD's will be here, cleaning out the 2 stalls, and purging/organizing 2 bedrooms and visiting this weekend, all of the supplies will be unloaded. My truck sits in front of the barn, no chances of rain/snow scheduled.
Loaders at Rural King weren't sure that everything would fit, but it DID, and DD bought herself a live tree, too. She repacked and got it in the back, and everything held and we made it home intack.
Middle DD offered to take Sasha to her house 2 1/2 hrs away for "boot camp." We made it clear that if the 3 of them fall in the love with her, they are to keep her, otherwise bring her back in like, January. Their elderly dog is deaf, doesn't want to be touched anymore and is fading. I was also able to fit a new 48 in tall dog crate in the truck's bed for Sasha.
Rural King has what I think is their real Christmas sale, buy online for store pickup, 10% off. There is inventory, unlike Black Friday, where when it's gone the sale price isn't available.
I also found a package of glass food storage containers on sale at WM, which I needed.
DD and I had a nice lunch of Jimmy Johns (sub sandwiches.)
Since, unfortunately we visit over the INET, I can just say that DH is leaving me in good stead.
I think you know what that means...I won't starve.