Ducks ALIVE in 2025!

[flowerbug]

wow, so sorry to hear, but being at peace with life and what happens next is to me wisdom even if it is a tough road. wailing at the fates doesn't seem to change them much and i can't stand the noise. *hugs to you, DH, and family*

 

[ducks4you]

I am comforted by everybody's sentiments. THANK YOU!!
We have had members here who suffer loss drop out for a season. I will probably Not do this.
I intend to check in and "Like" or respond to posts, just so you know that I am still here.
Palliative care told me that without the 6 weeks severe chemo and radiation treatments that he has refused, there is no guarantee of survival beyond 6 months and some patients have only survived 3 weeks after brain cancer discovery.
All that I know is that DH has been experiencing balancing issues for the past 6 weeks-2 months and they are attributable to the high-grade glioma cancer which has been growing deeply. We know of at least One case where a much younger/healthier man had this tumor, went under the knife for a biopsy, and didn't survive the surgery for That.
Also, DH's sister's cancer experience when He was in his early 20's has scarred him against even trying. He knows that the chemo would be 6 straight weeks of nausea and vomiting and misery and the payoff isn't guaranteed.
Our family is Grateful that the Lord let him fall last week.
He would be getting sicker and we would not have known Why.
I do not pretend to be a superior caretaker or claim to be at peace yet.
I Am asking "WHY this, why Now?"
I have been saying that getting two puppies NOW was very bad timing.
I do know that if we hadn't gotten the puppies, who are very sweet but Very difficult to train--these are working GSD's--I would probably curl up a ball, after he has passed on, and forget to take care of my other animals.
Probably forget to eat, too, but that is a blessing and solves the single health problem that the last 2 years show I have.
DH said yesterday, "Remember what Jesus said."
I said, Jesus said a Lot of things--are you cherry picking?!?
DH replied that Jesus told his disciples not to mourn for him bc he was going to die, but to Enjoy their time with him while he was still with them.
Can't find the chapter/verse, but I have read this--get back to you on it.

 

[Rhodie Ranch]

I have tears. A long hug and gentle pat pat pats on your back - from me to you.

 

[Finnie]

DH took a fall Monday night, hit his head, went to PT and therapist told him that he should get a CTScan bc he is on a blood thinner. 2 MRI's later and he has a brain tumor that is fatal. His Neurosurgeon recommends a biopsy and 6 weeks of chemo and radiation treatment. DH saw his sister go through this when she was 16, and she survived Hodgins disease, but the treatment was horrible.
I thought his issue was being too sedentary, but it looks like the tumor has been causing these problems for the past 6 weeks.
He is not unhappy. Family is all getting together for a deep clean and purge weekend of the 15th.
Not dead yet, and I expect he'll be around for at least the next 6 months.
Our good friend is an ICU nurse, same hospital and is sending me links to palliative care, so I will need to make and appointment and talk to them about home care.
NOT going to a nursing home. That would kill him in a month.

Oh dear. This is NOT what I thought you were going to say. I’m so sorry.

 

[Rhodie Ranch]

Ducks: you and your DD have my husband on your nightly prayer group. Please take him off, and give all of that space and love to your husband.