Will A Rodent Eat Deodorant Soap ?

[Carol Dee]

I always asked why, My mother always replied " because I said so"

Good enough reason for this mom

 

[baymule]

Good enough reason for this mom

Hey GORGEOUS!!! Is that you in your avatar or is it a movie star???

 

[Carol Dee]

Hey GORGEOUS!!! Is that you in your avatar or is it a movie star???

Thanks just lil' old me!

 

[pjn]

Looking good. Great work.

 

[Beekissed]

GREAT hijack!!!

My mother once grated a bar of soap over my teeth, when I cursed at her. No matter how many times brushed my teeth for 2 day all I tasted was soap. Never told my mother f**k you again

You said that to your MOTHER?????? And all you got was soap??????? I would have been dead and no one would have ever found the body. As would my children. They got soap rubbed on their tongues for just sassing back when told to do something.

I know a couple kids that have had dishwashing liquid squirted in their mouths for cursing. (not by me)

I used dishwashing liquid, but just placed it on my finger and rubbed it on their tongues. Not for cursing, though...my boys would never have dared curse in front of me. They still won't.

My parents never used the "soap in the mouth" trick. Dad had a thick black leather belt he favored. Mom used a different method. She'd send us out to bring in a switch, then used it with vigor. If we brought in a defective switch, say it was too small or was rotten wood so it broke, she'd use it then send us back out for a proper switch. Different parents have different methods.

I don't remember cursing or using foul language in my parent's hearing. Somehow I just knew it was not a wise thing to do. That didn't stop me from doing some other things though. I knew the diameter, length, and flexibility of the switch my Mom favored. She really liked one off of the privet bushes. Man, I hated that black belt of Dad's.

This is how I was raised also...no soap, but the "black persuader" and switches. And it turned out 9 good kids who wouldn't dream of talking back to their parents, even now. Cursing at or around our parents wasn't even conceivable and still isn't.

The mention of sending a kid out to find their own switch reminded me of a story I heard several years ago and it really made me think:

A little girl was sent outside to find an appropriate limb for her dad to switch her with. She was gone for the longest time, but finally came back inside, lugging a big stone. She tearfully said "I couldn't find a stick, Daddy, but I brought this rock for you to hit me with."

OMG, I get all choked up even retelling this. What kind of message are kids receiving when we hit them with sticks? Or bare hands, for that matter?

That there are rules in this world and there are consequences for breaking them. If more children had proper understanding and reinforcement of that concept we'd have a much safer and productive society.

There is a huge difference between discipline and "hitting" your kid.
And I think thoughtful people know the difference without having to spell it out.
I certainly knew that I had crossed the line when I got called on it and had to experience the consequences. I never enjoyed it of course, but it did serve as a deterrent to more of the same behavior from me in the future.

Those who think they are being socially advanced by allowing disrespectful behavior, (and I think all disobedience has it's roots in disrespect), are the true abusers.

I agree. Many forget what the word "spoil" means and when they refer to their spoiled kids, I'd love to remind them....to spoil something means to let it rot or to destroy it. There is no love in that action, merely self love of the parent ....someone who doesn't want to do the work it takes to shape a child into a respectful member of society.

When people happily suggest that, since I'm a grandma I must be spoiling my grandkids rotten, I give them a strange look and tell them I'd never spoil a child. What a weird suggestion! I love them too much for that. In fact, grandma's house is where they go to get straightened out when their parents have been too lenient.

 

[baymule]

Bee, I have to admit to a little spoiling of my grand kids. Our DD once told me that I had to put the oldest to bed at a certain hour, make sure she ate a healthy meal, no sweets and blah, blah, blah...
I looked at her and calmly said, That's not my job. That's YOUR job. MY job is to spoil her.

 

[Carol Dee]

Bee, I have to admit to a little spoiling of my grand kids. Our DD once told me that I had to put the oldest to bed at a certain hour, make sure she ate a healthy meal, no sweets and blah, blah, blah...
I looked at her and calmly said, That's not my job. That's YOUR job. MY job is to spoil her.

Way to go Grandma

 

[ninnymary]

I never even came close to cursing my mother. Neither have my kids come close to cursing me.

I do spoil my grandkids with sweets and little things. But I am also firm with them when they get out of hand which isn't often. They are always angels with Ninny and Papa. Not so with their parents, haha.

Mary

 

[canesisters]

I don't think that I would ever curse at someone - my sarcasm is more than biting enough...

DH used to say that I had 'a look' that screamed "Eat s#*t and die!" and when he saw it, he knew there was big trouble brewing and that I was WAY past talking. He usually scowled and went for a drive.